It’s a tradition.  Each year I compile a list of etiquette tips for the office holiday party. So, here’s this year’s refresher, as we say goodbye to this decade and welcome 2020.

EMPLOYEES

DON’T forget this is a work event masquerading as a social event.  So, don’t let your guard down. It may say “party”, but it’s still work. It’s not optional. Consider this a fun but mandatory meeting.  So arrive on time, and stay at least an hour.

DO mingle.  Especially with people in other departments, or with higher-ups you seldom see.

DON’T talk or joke about sexual stuff.  Period.

DON’T make a  move.  The holiday party is not the right time to approach that coworker you’ve been attracted to all year. That courage you’re feeling is the booze talking.

DO be prepared to introduce yourself to someone important, you may have a rare opportunity to meet a key client or senior leader.

DON’T drink more than two drinks.  Even if it’s an open bar, or especially IF it’s an open bar.  While you’re at a company event, you must keep your (sober) wits about you. Know what you can handle.

DO hug, but don’t linger.  You might see people at the holiday party that you don’t see everyday which can lead to “hug-greetings”.   Don’t let all the sexual harassment talk prevent you from giving a heartfelt hug to someone you’re happy to see.  Just make sure the other person is not uncomfortable.  For instance, if someone offers you their hand to shake, do not go in for a hug.

DON’T be a downer.  Avoid talking about anything depressing or disagreeable. The point is to have a good time.  Stick to light fare like travel, hobbies, kids and pets.

DO assume your picture will be taken and that you’ll show up on someone’s social media page so dress and act accordingly.

DON’T check your phone constantly.  It makes you look socially inept and uncomfortable.

Millennials, DON’t overshare.    GenXers and Boomers have a higher threshold for privacy than millennials and would rather not hear your personal stuff.  They also have a lower tolerance for “F” bombs. So, dial it down.

EMPLOYERS

DON’T offer an open bar.  Actually from a liability perspective you should offer no alcohol period, but that’s not always realistic.  DO set a limit, and make sure employees have a safe way home.  People become less inhibited, some may even become “touchy-huggy”, which is great at a gathering with family and friends, but not so great with co-workers.

DO acknowledge and celebrate successes.  This is a great opportunity to highlight company gains and recognize employee achievements. Don’t waste it, but keep it light.

DO think of cultural and religious diversity in your workforce and provide a wide range of food choices, like vegetarian and vegan.

DON’T pull rank, even if you’re the boss.   This is one of the rare occasions when the formal hierarchy is blurred and employees get to interact equally as people, when the accounting manager and the janitor can find out they both have a passion for jazz.

Lastly, DON’T forget to have a little fun. And instead of drinking, give yourself permission to eat anything you like if it helps your stress during the party. There’s always next year.

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Eva Del Rio is creator of HR Box™ – tools for small businesses and startups. Send questions to Eva@evadelrio.com