Helicoper Parent not Helping Applicant

Q: While processing applicants for an open position, I was stunned to receive an e-mail from a parent submitting a resume on behalf of their adult child, complete with a recommendation lauding the child’s character and qualifications. I replied explaining I couldn’t accept a resume from a parent and in order to be considered, the applicant would have to apply themselves. He did apply later. But because I now question the commitment –and dread the parental involvement– he’s at the bottom of my pile. Am I being too harsh?

A: I don’t think so. You’re simply asking the actual applicant to actually apply.

What you’re describing is behavior emblematic of a helicopter parent -defined as “one who pays extremely close attention to their child’s experiences and problems”. But I would also add “while attempting to remove obstacles, protect and rescue.”

For years, they’ve been a common fixture in education, playing interference in college admissions and course registration; with professors and roommates. So it’s no huge surprise they’re now showing up in the job search as well.

A University of Michigan study found these parents don’t just submit resumes, negotiate salaries and make interview arrangements, they also complain if the child is not hired. Participants also reported instances where the employee refused to meet with the supervisor or respond to a reprimand, before checking with the parents.

Don’t get me wrong -I’m all for parental consultation when young adults are making a major life decision like relocating, buying a car or condo, signing a contract. I know over-involved parents mean well.

But for me it boils down to the type of employee we expect to hire

We want someone who has reasoning skills and sound judgment, who can make good decisions, interact maturely and handle consequences. In other words, someone who can think for themselves. Now ask your self, what are the chances that Little Johnny will have these skills?

Call me a curmudgeon, but I’m with you. An applicant with a hovering parent has a strike against them and I would avoid him –and his parents. Unless of course, he had perfect qualifications, and no one else in that pile did.

Published in The Gainesville Sun February 26, 2012