Q: I recently started a job in a professional office setting and I’ve been surprised at how much casual profanity is thrown around by my coworkers. I’m talking “f” bombs as adjectives. I’m not a prude and enjoy using salty language myself, but only at home or among friends. Should I say something?
A: I have noticed that our culture has gradually become more accustomed to profanity. Whether it’s from hearing it in movies or on cable TV, or the resident at the White House, we have become somewhat desensitized. But I think it’s important that the workplace remain free of profanity, this is why. Excuse me while I get on my soapbox.
It can become a legal problem. If the profanity has a sexual edge, or is misogynistic, or is used mostly by males, the company may end up with an unintentionally “hostile work environment”, which may bring about a complaint or give a disgruntled employee good grounds for a discrimination claim if they’re fired or passed over for promotion.
It can become a morale problem. There may be others like you, who don’t like it but haven’t said anything. Sometimes people will pretend to go along with dirty jokes or profanity to fit in, but they’re not having fun.
It can mask anger, aggression, or conflict. Depending on the context –for example during a disagreement- some profanity can sound scary and may feel threatening. Profanity can also be used by bullies to intimidate and embarrass their target.
It’s unprofessional. Profanity and foul language cheapen the work environment. Sure, if you are an artist or work in a movie set or are some creative genius, maybe you can get away with it. But for the rest of us, it’s unprofessional.
For all these reasons, the topic of profanity should be addressed in the employee handbook (Steps down from soapbox).
Should you say something? That’s a personal decision. How much does this bother you ? if everyone else seems ok with it, and participates in the practice and the environment seems lighthearted, then you might wait and see how it goes.
It’s doubtful than you being new and complaining will change the culture.
But if this is upsetting you, and the vibe seems tense then you might be in the wrong place and you might want to look elsewhere.
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