Q: The small company where I work is politically divided about half and half. Things were tense after the election but since then we’ve all learned how to avoid certain topics and get along just fine. And that’s kind of the problem, no one wants to offend or rock the boat. We all know we’re tiptoeing around each other, and it prevents the team from doing our best. Something similar has happened with my own family. Can you offer some ideas? It would be helpful for both work and home.
A: This is a sticky subject, and one I’ve written about several times since the election, here and here. Sometimes the question is from a supervisor who’s trying to keep the peace among staff. Sometimes is from someone who wants to get along with a specific co-worker. In your case it sounds like you’re dealing with the same issue that the whole country is trying to grapple with: trying to get along with those you disagree with and recognizing that none of us can be our best in our jobs, our organizations, communities or families if we’re all feeling guarded, judging others and feeling judged.
Remember when it was safe to talk about the weather with anybody? Well with climate change even that can become political.
So, I could suggest you find the “root causes” of conflict, or explore the myths and misconceptions about conflict, or offer some techniques on conflict resolution, but I’ve covered all that before. This time I want to offer a couple of less academic more “homey” suggestions to try.
As a group. Try doing non-work related stuff together. It can be something fun like organizing a softball team after work or inviting a fun lunch-and-learn speaker. Or better yet, do something together for a good cause –like helping build a house through Habitat for Humanity or walking for the March of Dimes. The point is to engage with each other while sharing common interests that aren’t political.
As an individual. Look inside. Are you reading or listening to stuff that makes you mad? Are you participating in the “outrage” industry? Yes, there are whole industries out there (especially in social media) whose business model is keeping all of us outraged. So beware.
Consume constructive media instead like TED talks.
In fact I recommend googling “Ted talk conflict resolution” where you’ll find short, smart, inspiring talks about civility, empathy, how to have better conversation, and finding common political ground.
Readers, what are you doing out there to get along with coworkers and family who are not like-minded? Would love to hear your ideas.
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